Understanding Egypt is a series about Egyptian culture and traditions. I will try my best to explain the Egyptian way of thinking about different aspects of life that are usually different (or not) from Western and other cultures. If you have any questions or points you need elaborated please contact me through the comments sections or through the contact me page.
Marriage and Virginity
Married or a nun?
“How old are you?”
“I’m 27” replies the cute, hot and sexy female.
“Have you ever had sex before?”
“No, I’m not married! I’m still a virgin” Replied the same female.
This past conversation is imaginary. Given that I am a guy, I cannot even have such a conversation with a Middle Eastern female.
In this Understanding Egypt post, I will try to explain the Middle Eastern cultures and traditions when it comes to sex before marriage. No I’m not mixed up, for this one it is not just Egypt, it is the whole Middle East, the whole Arab world.
To cut a long story short, Middle Easterns are expected to lose virginity AFTER marriage; no pre-marital sex is allowed.
However, because of the natural selection, and because men are always a bit more lucky, there is nothing to prove if a man is virgin or not. Unlucky for the woman, there is.
And because there is something to prove if a female is still a virgin or not, Middle Eastern men grew very jealous and hot blooded about their women. It is a whole family’s honor that is in sake of that little piece of skin called hymen. If it’s broken, a whole family can never put their eyes in those of the whole world again.
Not just that, but in the less educated areas (I have to state that this is decreasing over the years and you rarely hear of such incidents anymore), in the night of the wedding, it is not just the husband and his new wife enjoying their first time together; there are guests!
In the bedroom, they are joined by several women from both sides of the family, specially the bride’s mother and the groom’s mother, their sisters, and any other important female family member.
They all attend while the husband breaks the hymen, take a few drops of blood on a white handkerchief and they’d go outside to the men of the family and celebrate (continue the wedding) in the honor of the families.
What if there was no blood?
The wedding is turned into a funeral. Worst case scenario (it is really bad) one the bride’s family members would be mad enough to kill her.
In literal translation, they’d say “I washed the dishonor she caused by her own blood”.
Again I have to mention that such traditions are decreasing with time. And it is worth mentioning that one of the first to stand against those traditions was Qasim Amin back in the late 1800s, where he is considered to be the first Arab Feminist
But let’s not go so much into the bloody side of the story. All I wanted was to compare this culture to the Western, more open minded culture.
Let me just add here that this is one of the main reasons Middle Eastern females reach the age of 20 and start looking for a husband right away. They don’t date and break up, waiting for Mr. Right, Mr. Right has to show up real quick, or they’ll never get married.
If you haven’t noticed, this is the reason for the post’s title:
Get Married or Die Trying!
Now for someone like me, who has grown up seeing both cultures and understanding both cultures, I do understand the Western point of view. But what you, dear reader, need to understand is that not many Middle Eastern people (men or women) understand your culture that much.
And that is why, dear hot girl who’s reading this (hopeful?), when you visit the middle east, many males would look at you with hunger in their eyes. I am sorry to say that they would be ignorant enough to think that you would be a prostitute, or at least you’re ok with having sex with anyone.
Dress appropriately. You’re walking in the streets of people who believe any female who isn’t a virgin and is still not married is 99.9% a prostitute (that 0.1% is that she’s been raped.) The least you can do is leaving those booty shorts at home. And decrease the amount of cleavage that is showing. That should work out fine.
There is only one question left unanswered:
What happens to those females who do not get married?
The legend says they die virgins…But who knows what might have happened secretly…
Have you ever been to the Middle East? Had a striking conversation with one of the traditional females? Or had a bad encounter with the men’s hungry eyes? Share it here!